I see this desire to share as not only the epitome of being human, but also the backbone of our social nature - our Ace in the game of survival. It starts as simple as the desire to eat while we are babes. We are born, we scream, at that point mother is too tired to care what the scream means, but eventually she learns to understand that the meaning of each scream and giggle and whine are forms of communication of specific desires, one of them being "I want food". Imagine if these desires were not shared by a babe. The baby could possibly survive, but only if it's mother was on point like a Irish Setter. Sharing our desires is so important for our survival that is must work under our conscious radar else the majority of babies would be dead. The interesting thing here is that once a babe's desire is satisfied by it's mum, it is not like that desire is gone, it just changes a little bit - gets a little more complex. The reason babes stop sucking the tit is in part the mom's choice, but also because the babe is done with milk. It's desire for food has been satisfied with milk long enough. It needs something else. As a baby graduates from milk to various forms of vegetable, fruit and grain puree, it can still get by with screams, giggles, and whines as its go-to form of communication. However, there does come a point where the babe's desire for food gets so complex that nothing offered to it by mum will do. The screams, giggles, and whines just won't bring the babe what it wants. Luckily, by this point in the babe's life, it is no longer a babe, but a child, and it no longer communicates mainly by screams, giggles, and whines; but by spoken language. This means the child can ask, with amazing specificity, what kind of food it wants. Sounds very luxurious doesn't it. Well don't worry. Most children soon realize that just because they have the power to ask exactly for what it wants, doesn't mean they will get it. This realization marks the point where a child begins the process of being a member of a society.
What you may have drawn from my little rant, and what I will make explicit regardless, is that throughout the entire life of a new-born babe, to child, to adult, to elderly, to dead; three things remain constant:
- Desires are shared first, and then understood later.
- Spoken language is the tool used to share them.
- This entire enterprise is born and develops under the conscious radar because it is crucial to our survival (like our heartbeat)
The only thing that changes as we grow older and become more social is the complexity - of our desires, and as a result, of the language needed to share them.
This explains why babes learn how to speak the spoken language(s) most popularly used within their environment(s) without any formal educative intervention. Their lives depend on it. Babes learn to speak in the same way we, adults, learn to not speak.
This is where I currently exist - in between 2 conflicting worlds. One world is I need to educate my students to speak. The other world is my students are being educated to not speak. It is a difficult hole to get out of but I have the support of a billion motivated babies behind me - I think I will be ok.